Write to Heal Your Rage—and Let It Fuel You
Why is writing to heal your rage so critical?
We often learn that rage is like a festering wound. Our families, teachers, and society teach us that rage is something we need to flush out, cover up, and get rid of as soon as possible.
And yet, I’ve found my efforts to banish my rage actually hinder me. The times I’ve told myself not to be angry, forgiven before I was ready, and refused to set boundaries in the name of squashing my rage have trapped this emotion in my body like an inconsolable baby shrieking for love.
What’s helped me heal is honoring my rage as the ally it is. It’s only then that I can use its power to fuel me.
Let me explain…
As I’ve worked on rebranding my business to focus on the phrase “write to heal,” I’ve felt unusually rageful. I started to rewrite my website copy as part of my rebrand and found the inconsolable baby of rage rattling my focus, draining my energy, and raising my anxiety.
Then I remembered to do what I didn’t want to do.
Using this simple writing to heal technique, I have put my rage to good use and helped it pass quickly.
When I feel myself growing enraged, I go into a private room with a pen and paper and shut the door. If I’m with others at the time, I simply tell them where I’ll be and that I will be out in 15 minutes.
Then, I write down all the rageful thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are blazing through me—uncensored and unedited.
Once I’ve written all I can write, I pause and say thank you.
I lie down, feel the ground beneath me, and breathe deep into my belly until I feel my body relax. Then, I put my writing in a safe place to revisit later if I still feel enraged OR throw it away if my rage has subsided.
Next, I say silently to myself:
I am grateful for my rage for teaching me how to take better care of myself. I am grateful for all lessons learned and unlearned.
Just like a baby, I find my rage calms with attention, mindful breathing, and acceptance. When I give myself the time and safe, contained space to communicate my rage, I allow myself to access its wisdom so I can address where I need care.
Often, the self-care steps I need to take are relatively simple. Yours may be similar or different depending on who you are and what you need:
Daily time alone, especially after a long day of work
A short walk outside to unwind before bed
Going to bed before 10pm so I can awaken refreshed
Celebrating myself for stepping into a new phase of growth and service through my rebrand—instead of just pushing through a to-do list
In short, if you’re feeling enraged right now:
Give yourself a safe time and place to feel your rage.
Allow your rage to thrash around in your body.
Write down whatever your rage evokes in you, without lashing out at yourself or others.
Put your writing in a safe place to process later if you’re still feeling enraged; or, throw it away if your rage has subsided.
Breathe deep into your belly.
Hold your ground, literally.
Honor and express gratitude for what your rage has to teach you.
Is the thought of writing to heal your rage triggering resistance, writer’s block—or both? Are you unsure what self-care steps are right for you?
Schedule a FREE, no-obligation 45-minute consultation with me and let’s come up with a customized solution to help your rage work for you. Connect with me to schedule your 45-minute consultation today.